There are ways to present it delicately and avoid offending a young lady's sensibilities. [Or a young dandy's as the case might be.] Such matters are not spoken of openly in every society. I daresay it's most where they aren't. Being polite, using euphemisms, expressing some hesitance and discomfort with the circumstances. These are all ways to deliver the news of our circumstances with more tact and avoid sounding a complete lecher.
[The irony of this is that Masaomi had expressed all too much hesitance in his earlier months, still hates the idea now. Every sexual act tears at another lose thread in Masaomi's relationship with Mikajima Saki. He misses her so much, is always angry with himself for forgetting pieces of her. But being honest about those feelings? Being delicate and tactful with others' feelings? It goes against every one of his warped self-preservation instincts.
On an even simpler level, he has never, ever been subtle. About anything.]
I am a complete lecher.
[So there.]
So how would you do it then?
Tell her she might fade away if you don't pollinate her love blossoms?
Your poetry leaves something to be desired. As do your manners. A man should not be a lech. That's vulgar. There is pleasure to be found in a woman's company beyond anything carnal - conversation, shared interests, a companion and friend.
I would explain it as such: 'Ms. Phoebe, I do sincerely apologize, but there are certain requirements here beyond the standard. The Hedonists refer to it as "distraction," though that's simply a euphemism for a more intimate act. The most intimate that two people might be. Please understand, you have time to find a man you favor and can trust. The effects of abstinence usually set in after a week or two. You'll notice food starts to taste off, then things will begin to pass through you. I realize it's not a great deal of time, but it is there for you to find your bearings in some small measure. If there is anything I can do to help you, please let me know.'
It displays sympathy for the difficult situation she's been put in and provides her the facts of the situation without imposing yourself on her. Offering to help someone, I find, is far more effective at drawing them in than pursuing so actively and salaciously as you've done.
Wow you really do plan out everything you say like a strategy game.
I just say whatever I feel like.
[That isn't it, Masaomi knows. He also understands Monty's example perfectly. It really is polite, helpful, and gives the other person a little bit of time to react to their awful situation. It isn't Masaomi's style, but it makes a good point, as much as Masaomi hates to admit it.
So he won't admit it, not to Monty at least, even as he takes it to heart.]
I'm an earl with a good reputation to maintain, Mr. Kida. I do not have the luxury of saying whatever I feel like. If you'd truly like to have more success with the women in our company, you might consider that what you feel is not always appropriate to say.
That is not what I'm saying, in any case. I'm saying treat a woman with respect, show to her that she can trust you, that you are not just out to bed her, and you may have some greater success in courting her.
[Congrats, Monty! You've hit a nerve without even trying and probably on accident. Masaomi may have left a girl to die before, after promising much the same.]
I didn't mention me, Mr. Kida; though, it's interesting you should.
I think I've dispensed enough advice for one session, if you'd like to put any of it into practice. I'll wish you luck with your endeavors and mercy upon the women you pester.
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Everything about this is ~vulgar and uncomfortable~
You were the who said not to avoid all that crap!
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On an even simpler level, he has never, ever been subtle. About anything.]
I am a complete lecher.
[So there.]
So how would you do it then?
Tell her she might fade away if you don't pollinate her love blossoms?
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I would explain it as such: 'Ms. Phoebe, I do sincerely apologize, but there are certain requirements here beyond the standard. The Hedonists refer to it as "distraction," though that's simply a euphemism for a more intimate act. The most intimate that two people might be. Please understand, you have time to find a man you favor and can trust. The effects of abstinence usually set in after a week or two. You'll notice food starts to taste off, then things will begin to pass through you. I realize it's not a great deal of time, but it is there for you to find your bearings in some small measure. If there is anything I can do to help you, please let me know.'
It displays sympathy for the difficult situation she's been put in and provides her the facts of the situation without imposing yourself on her. Offering to help someone, I find, is far more effective at drawing them in than pursuing so actively and salaciously as you've done.
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I just say whatever I feel like.
[That isn't it, Masaomi knows. He also understands Monty's example perfectly. It really is polite, helpful, and gives the other person a little bit of time to react to their awful situation. It isn't Masaomi's style, but it makes a good point, as much as Masaomi hates to admit it.
So he won't admit it, not to Monty at least, even as he takes it to heart.]
But I think I get it.
Basically you're saying "if you don't want her, she'll want you."
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That is not what I'm saying, in any case. I'm saying treat a woman with respect, show to her that she can trust you, that you are not just out to bed her, and you may have some greater success in courting her.
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What if I just go full shounen protag?
All like I WILL PROTECT HER WITH MY LIFE!!!1!
That'd cover all the bases at once!
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It'd be a lie if I was talking to YOU.
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I think I've dispensed enough advice for one session, if you'd like to put any of it into practice. I'll wish you luck with your endeavors and mercy upon the women you pester.
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I guess.
I make no promises.